LOTD 273

I had a totally different set up… and I took the shot a few days ago.  Today, I opened it up because it is a new year’s eve shot and… I hated it.  Luckily, Adalynne was ready to hop in and booze it up with me for a new shot.  It actually works out perfectly… this is a reflection post.  So, this will be long.  If you just want the fashion, it’s time to get your scroll on. (hey, at least I’m honest!)

So, I’ve said before, 2017 was rough.  I know others had a far worse year… but in my life, this one wasn’t good.  I’m not going to focus on the bad, this time, I’m going to focus on the good…. in RL and SL.  2018 will be a better year, my husband and I are determined to be better people, not only in working with our daughter, but also being healthier.  There is no point to trying if we don’t start with ourselves, especially in the health department.  A lot of people say they’re going to lose weight at the end/beginning of each new year… well, we are serious.  My husband and I are at the heaviest we have ever been and that needs to change, for us, and for our daughter.  We both want to be around and a part of her life as long as we can… being unhealthy and overweight is not helping.  It has to stop now.

On to the good that happened this year…

In RL.
My husband and I celebrated five years of marriage this year.  This is for RL.  We met in 2009 in RL and have been together ever since.  We were married on 7-7-2012.  We celebrated this anniversary at a wedding of one of my long time childhood friends.  That was fun, there are a ton of ways to celebrate your anniversary… but what better way than watching a new family join together.  It was very special.

Our daughter turned three this year.  She has been so much fun and such a blessing to have in our lives.  She is the spitting image of her momma… if you don’t believe me, message me.  I’ll send you side by side photos.  She’s a carbon copy.  And she’s beautiful.  I know I am not the best mom in the world, but I strive to be the best for her daily.  I am learning more about myself with each day that passes as she and I grow.  It is also so so so much fun watching her interact with my husband.  She really lights up when he is around, and vice versa.  She is definitely daddy’s girl.  Like we’ve said before, we hope that we can give her a sibling in 2018… she would be the best big sister a little brother or sister could ask for.  She’s like her momma, she loves babies.. I always have.  In 2018, she will be the flower girl at my cousins wedding, I am looking forward to seeing my baby so grown up and looking like a little princess.  I have grown closer and closer as good friends with my cousin over the last year… he has had a rough year, especially after the loss of his brother at the end of this year.  I hope to continue the grow that relationship… even our daughter calls him “uncle.”

Unfortunately and fortunately, I am still at the same job.  I did celebrate five years of employment there, in November.  Yes, I’ve been on the hunt for a new job, but nothing promising yet.  It’s going to be hard because not a lot of places offer what I have there.. but we’ll see what happens.  This is my second job since gradating college… I’d say that is an accomplishment.  A lot of kids my age (“kids”) have had a ton of jobs since graduating, giving us a bad rep in the “working world,” but hey… to each their own.  My dad is working on nearing 40 years at his job… my mom spent 20 plus at her first job out of high school and nearly 18 with her second job… she’s back home now at the original place of employment.  My husband is nearing his third year at his job… they really take care of their employees and their families, it is a blessing that he works there.  He’s applied for a new job within the company, so we’re hoping to hear something from that after the new year ticks over.

We spent a lot of time building memories this year.  A lot of those memories involved taking a trip down the road to Kansas City to see the Royals play.  I am a sports fanatic, I love football, baseball, and I’m a fan of NASCAR (although I don’t know who to follow anymore, my favorite driver retired at the end of the year 😦  )  Anyways, we went to a ton of games this year, starting out on my birthday and we had so much fun with each game.  Our daughter is a big fan also… it’s been so much fun watching her play along too.  We spent a lot of time at the pool this year too.  The little water baby was a big fan of that.  As a part of our gym membership, we can go to the gym-owned pool “beach club” at no extra cost.  The pool is a great way to wear out a toddler!

We still have our dog and cat, but this year as a potty training reward, we bought fish.  We started out with 6 fish.  These neon little fish kept dying (weird deaths too… one of them was nearly decapitated… weird).  Now we have 8 fish… they stay in our daughters room because they are her fish!  She takes good care of them.  Keeps them fed, has helped clean the tank, adds water when needed.  We are so proud of her and her potty training successes… it took a while, but we kept at it and didn’t get too stressed.  She was going to learn it at her own pace… and she did.  She’s a rockstar!

It hasn’t been easy, but having my husband by my side with every step, has made this year better.  With five years behind us… the next is 10… and we’re looking at that head on.

For SL.

This was a weird year in SL.  I didn’t imagine it ending this way, but I think, in the end everything turned out for the better.  First, I’ve learned to stand up for myself.  I’ve spent a lot of time not worrying about myself… making sure others felt important, forgetting about the fact that I am also important.  I’ve also learned that when you surround yourself with negativity… you become a negative person too.  Toxic relationships don’t lead to anything positive.  I should have known that from before, it’s why I walked away from a good SL job years ago at a club… toxic people and negative people do not help make your life any easier.  You live and learn, right?

Another big deal this year… this blog.  It really took off.  I started by winning a contest for Rebel Hope.  That really set things into motion and things really started to fall into place.  So, to all of those who allow me the opportunity to blog your incredible work… thank you for believing in me, thank you for the opportunity, and thank you for all that you do behind the scenes.  You continue to inspire me with each day because your talent is unending.  I don’t have the patience to do half of what you all do… so from the bottom of my heart, thank you so much.  I look forward to continued partnership in 2018.  I am thrilled to continue to show off all the cool things found in SL… whether it be by these partnerships or my own finds along the way… SL is about exploring… for me, I explore with fashion!

Next… the new friendships.  This is why this picture is special to me.  If I could include you all, I would, but to those of you who have had a positive impact on my life… thank you.  I definitely would be here with the support of you all.  You all are so special, I hope you know that.  From the ups and the downs this year, some of you have been right by my side, keeping the positivity flowing.  If y’all know me at all you know I am not a positive person… when it comes to the glass half empty or full, I am the empty cup.  I can’t list you all here, because I’m sure I’d forget someone, so to all of you – thank you ♥

And last, but not least, my family.  My family dynamics have changed throughout the year but what I have is a tight, close group of people who I would do anything for.  If anyone tells you otherwise, they’re lying.  I am a momma bear and I will fight dearly for my family.  Like I said above, I now have learned to fight just as dearly for myself.  So, for those of you who feel like you were left behind, or tossed to the side; you may want to look deep within yourself.  I don’t give up on people easily.  I am loyal to a fault.  To my daugthers, it is an honor to have you call me momma… you are two of the most special lady’s I have ever met and I love you so much.  To my husband, you are amazing.  You are the reason I am here and continue to love so fiercely.  To my sisters, I know we don’t see each other daily, or talk all the time, but I don’t have sisters in RL… so you are the best a girl can have.  To my brothers… I do have a younger brother in RL, but I get to play the baby sister now… and I know I drive you two nuts, but I hope you know that you are amazing guys and it is a blessing to have you in my life!

So, to 2017… it’s been real, but I’m not your fan… it’s time for a bigger and better 2018.  Much love y’all.  xo, Melly.

Thank you Adalynne for posing with me.  You are definitely one of those blessings I spoke of above.  For Adalynne’s post, please click here.

LOTD 273

♥ Clothing ♥
On Melly
Hair: Truth – Tinsley (December 2017 VIP Group)
Headband: Cosmic Dust – Happy New Year Headband
Dress: Dead Dollz – Tia [Uber, December 2017]
Shoes: CandyDoll – Luiza [N21, December 2017]

On Adalynne
Hair: Truth – Tinsley (December 2017 VIP Group)
Gown: Just Because – Veronica Gown [Uber, December 2017]

♥ Decor ♥
MINIMAL – Instagram Background *3* -WHITE-
Vagabond – Mojave Ruffle Table
hive  celebration sign . party . gold
kunst  Don Perdigon bottles x3 / Brut
kunst   Don Perdigon holder / Oenotheque RARE
keke champagne bubblissimo bucket – gold
keke  rainfall glitter broad . 4 LI
{anc} MoonLightLounge. champagne 1Li
MishMish – Foil Balloons (Golden – 2018)
Apple Fall Confetti Balloon (Gold)
Cheeky Pea Celebutante Curtains
Fancy Decor: Storage Box (geometric)

Pose: Glamrus . Sotally Tober [Marketplace Only]

Song of the Day: Miss Independent – Kelly Clarkson


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